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Letters to the Boys: Walk a Mile in My Shoes

I hope you boys are following along with all of these principles.

 

While adding your own spice to make them your own, of course.

 

And I do realize that advice not asked for is advice that will be rejected.  So, I am glad that you are reading this at your own accord.

 

Ok, let’s get into what’s on my mind today.  That shoe was my very first baby shoe.  Braxton, you actually found it at Gigi and Pop-pop’s house one evening.

 

Funny enough, the sight of the shoe inspired this writing.  You never know where inspiration is going to come from, so always ‘be open’.

 

Now, to get to the point.

 

You cannot walk a mile in my shoes, nor can I walk a mile in your shoes.  Yet, we must do as best we can to understand that everyone is fighting their own inner battles.

 

The stuff that you take for granted are the things that other people are praying and wishing for.

 

You never know when a smile or a text message is going to change the course of someone’s day.  This is the principle of being the bumble bee.  As you know, I have a bumble bee tattooed on my arm as a constant reminder to always show up.

 

You guys have to be the change you want to see.  You guys have to be the person that can brighten any dire situation.

 

Since you cannot literally walk a mile in someone else’s shoes, don’t think that you can know why they reacted the way they did or why they took a certain action.

 

People’s actions probably will not make much sense to you and that’s because we each have our own unique thought patterns and temperaments.

 

Remember that judgment never does anyone any good.  Even if you are the judge, you may think that you are high and mighty, but the energy level of judgment is low on the scale of consciousness.  Judging can only bring you down, just as gossip will.

 

People are doing the best they can with what they have.  This means that people learned differently as they grew up and those patterns created certain neural highways that became their patterns.

 

Everyone is at a different level of development and on a different path.  No one wants to make mistakes or disappoint others, so don’t react as if other people’s actions were intentionally done to make your life more difficult.

 

Don’t sweat the small stuff and remember that it’s all small.

 

In life, have no hurries and no worries.

 

Be the role model, have an impact.

 

I love you boys and I am proud of you for taking action to better yourselves.




Brax Becomes Batman at BMX

A few weeks ago I shared the story of how Braxton went to the BMX track to race for the first time and he was a natural.

Well, Munchie has kept at it and looks forward to going every week.

This past weekend, he wanted to wear his Batman costume, so we let him.   He did his first couple of laps with the cape and mask on.

Looking back at the video, he was ‘Batman’.  I could see that he felt the cape flapping in the wind while he was going over the hills.

The story he was telling himself at that moment was that he was Batman, he was in character.

And yes, Brax is certainly a character.  I love characters, it’s a good thing to be your own character rather than being one of the mindless zombies going through groundhog day, every day.

Going back to the story: in his mind, it didn’t matter that he wasn’t actually Batman, he wanted to be Batman so he became Batman.  We are all just living the story we are telling ourselves about our life in our own mind.

Him being Batman is not different than you believing that you have a tough life with the world against you.

Just tell yourself a different story.

Think differently – Kyle Newell

 

P.S-If you’ve been having that voice in your head that keeps telling you it’s time to try something different in terms of your fitness, then you should check out what our 30-day trial is all about.  This is for you if you want to learn, be held accountable and add some spice to your fitness routine or heck, even just get started on one.  You can find out more about it here: http://www.newellstrength.com/30-day-risk-free-trial/




Who You Are Being, Not What You are Doing

Just yesterday I was writing about this very topic and I didn’t look ahead to see what today’s scheduled episode of Unlocking Your Inner Strength was, but wouldn’t you know it….

It deals with the same message.

This can only mean one thing.

The universe and the powers that be that we cannot see are trying to speak to you and I.

In today’s episode I talk about being the person you want to be and aspire to be.  Too often, we just get blocked because we are so busy doing that we forget to BE present and focused on the current time.

You can listen to today’s episode here: http://kylenewell.com/inner-strength-podcast/

Think differently – Kyle Newell

 

P.S-If you’ve been having that voice in your head that keeps telling you it’s time to try something different in terms of your fitness, then you should check out what our 30-day trial is all about.  This is for you if you want to learn, be held accountable and add some spice to your fitness routine or heck, even just get started on one.  You can find out more about it here: http://www.newellstrength.com/30-day-risk-free-trial/




Are You a Human Doing?

Years ago, probably 16 of them or so, I remember one of the cooks at my dad’s restaurant pulling me aside to tell me he knew I would go on to impact a lot of people.

It wasn’t the first time someone had told me that, but it did strike me as odd since at the time I was just competing in bodybuilding and working as a waiter.

Looking back on it, people like Mark (the cook), saw how I did everything the same way, with energy, focus and passion.  Dealing with people, my nutrition, my training and so on.

I tell you this not to toot my horn but because it is a good illustration that we are human BEINGS, not human DOINGS.

Don’t get caught up in your to do lists and just being busy all the time.  Why not make a ‘who you want to be’ list?

There is more to life than simply increasing the speed of it.

Think differently – Kyle Newell

 

P.S-If you’ve been having that voice in your head that keeps telling you it’s time to try something different in terms of your fitness, then you should check out what our 30-day trial is all about.  This is for you if you want to learn, be held accountable and add some spice to your fitness routine or heck, even just get started on one.  You can find out more about it here: http://www.newellstrength.com/30-day-risk-free-trial/




Friday the 13th

Today is Friday the 13th and that can only mean that Halloween is getting closer than it was yesterday.

Actually that has nothing to do with it, but it is true.

Devon and I are down at the beach today to celebrate our 7th anniversary and we plan on enjoying each other and sharing memories.

If it wasn’t for Devon, I would never have been able to follow through on my dream.  She pushed me, supported me, made me resign from teaching :), and listened to me when I was struggling.

And thank God she was there in my life or I doubt Newell Strength would exist.

And if it didn’t exist, people like Kelly Jackson wouldn’t have had a place to shine and inspire others.  Ok, maybe she would have done the same thing somewhere else, but nonetheless.

Here is Kelly and her transformation in mind, body and spirit, in her own words.

https://youtu.be/IyzLBCiHN6c

Keep it up KJ!

Think differently – Kyle Newell

 

P.S-If you’ve been having that voice in your head that keeps telling you it’s time to try something different in terms of your fitness, then you should check out what our 30-day trial is all about.  Kelly started with us at Newell Strength with a trial too, she is living proof! You can find out more about it here: http://www.newellstrength.com/30-day-risk-free-trial/




Mastery or Obsession?

I first listened to Malcolm Gladwell’s book, Outliers, 8 years ago on my drives to and from my day of teaching, which was sandwiched in between Coaching sessions at Newell Strength.

In that book, he highlighted study after study which showed that it takes 10,000 hours to become a master of your craft.

Not just 10,000 hours but 10,000 of focused attention on the skill you are trying to master.

It goes without saying that if passion is present, then there is no way that you will be able to stick out 10,000 hours of anything.

Most people go after something because it looks cool and they like the idea of it.  Yet, they are lucky to even make it to 500 hours because the initial enthusiasm wears off and passion was never present to begin with.

One of the clues I like to look at with people is their level of commitment and that means they are either in a flow of mastery or obsessed, which opens a whole other set of problems.

So what’s the difference?

Mastery is when you own the craft, the process and obsession is when the goal owns you.

Read that again.

Think differently – Kyle Newell

 

P.S-If you’ve been having that voice in your head that keeps telling you it’s time to try something different in terms of your fitness, then you should check out what our 30-day trial is all about.  This is for you if you want to learn, be held accountable and add some spice to your fitness routine or heck, even just get started on one.  You can find out more about it here: http://www.newellstrength.com/30-day-risk-free-trial/




Letters to Brax and Colt: The Process is the Destination

  • July 11, 2018
  • Advice

 

There was a book written a number of years ago called the Obstacle is the Way.

 

The premise of the book is in line with my beliefs about how one should navigate towards a better life.

 

You can have anything in life that you want if you are willing to put in the work.

 

Yet, putting in the work is tedious and most people are playing life with wish bones rather than back bones.

 

Ask yourself this question: what the purpose of any goal?

 

I’ll tell you.

 

The purpose of any goal is to increase your level of happiness.

 

If the goal or final destination is making you less happy, get off of that path.

 

When I first started competing in bodybuilding I made the mistake of thinking it was about the actual contest day.  Well, let me take that back.

 

The first time I competed in 2004 I had no expectations.  I decided it was something I wanted to experience and bodybuilding had become a great passion of mine, so it was an innocent pursuit.

 

Then, the unexpected happened, I took 2nd place against a very good competitor but I also beat out a number of other competitors in a very large group.

 

As soon as I had time to digest the experience, I decided that I had to compete again and that I was going to win.  This entire mindset shift took something that invigorated me and sucked the joy right out of it.

 

The next year, I focused on winning and I put all my eggs into the proverbial basket of having to win the show or else it was a failure.

 

I did worse, much worse the second time around and sank into a depression for months after the show.

 

All of the sudden the process was discarded for the end goal.  It took me some more years to realize that it was the process of getting ready for these shows that was lit my soul on fire rather than having to win and placing my self-image in the hands of the judges.

 

The actual destination, in this case, the contest date, was nothing more than a day to celebrate, a ceremony of the path that I had now followed.

 

Competing with this approach, I grew and growth is happiness.

 

I wasn’t a very good bodybuilder, but I learned a heck of a lot from competing, the main thing being to focus on the process.

 

The process is having the daily discipline to do what need to be done and to do what you said you were going to do.  For example, if you train and follow your diet strategy with the proper principles, you will get to where you are supposed to be.

 

A goal is nothing more than a guidepost to set you on the proper path.

 

Most people focus on the end goal and then enthusiasm wears off and they never see the finish line.

 

What they don’t realize is that life is a game that can’t be won, so there is no finish line. Once you realize that there is no finish line, then you realize there is no rush.

 

Sometimes, too much enthusiasm will come across as a franctic energy that cannot be sustained.  Endurance, therefore, is how you stay on the path.  And this ties into so much of what we’ve been talking about in these pages.

 

A disciplined mind and a commitment to focus will allow endurance to prevail.

 

Don’t compare your journey to anyone else’s because it’s irrelevant.  Comparison is the thief of happiness.

 

And remember, you can never be off your path, it’s all your path.




Laugh Later or Laugh Now?

About a week and a half ago, my good friend Jacques Crush-toe was over to help me assemble the new swing set for the boys.

When I got home to meet him, I noticed that my socket wrench kit was in shambles, which meant that someone opened it wrong.

Suzy ratted out the Munch Man, but no biggie.

But of course, the job called for just such tools, so I scooped it up and brought it to the front yard to organize, which is tedious and took about 10 minutes.

So organized, so nice.

Well, as soon as a grabbed the pair I needed and turned to walk over to help Jacques, I heard that all-too familiar sound of the kit being opened the wrong way, once again.

And yup, it was Munchie take two.

Now, in these situations you have two options: to be mad and throw a tantrum or to laugh at the situation.

I learned long ago that if you are going to look back at something and laugh at it then you mind as well laugh at it now.

Life is to short to not laugh every chance you get.

Think differently – Kyle Newell

 

P.S-If you’ve been having that voice in your head that keeps telling you it’s time to try something different in terms of your fitness, then you should check out what our 30-day trial is all about.  This is for you if you want to learn, be held accountable and add some spice to your fitness routine or heck, even just get started on one.  You can find out more about it here: http://www.newellstrength.com/30-day-risk-free-trial/




Vanilla Habits to Help You Create a Life of Purpose

I have no secret recipes for success, unless you consider habit formation a secret weapon.

Most people want to have a life of freedom and a life of fulfillment but they don’t know how to get there.

Well, from my own personal experience, the key lies in fundamental habits.  They aren’t sexy, but they’ve worked for me.

You can learn more about my own vanilla habits in today’s episode of Unlocking Your Inner Strength here: http://kylenewell.com/inner-strength-podcast/

Think differently – Kyle Newell

 

P.S-If you’ve been having that voice in your head that keeps telling you it’s time to try something different in terms of your fitness, then you should check out what our 30-day trial is all about.  This is for you if you want to learn, be held accountable and add some spice to your fitness routine or heck, even just get started on one.  You can find out more about it here: http://www.newellstrength.com/30-day-risk-free-trial/




Mom Was Right About the Mattress

Two Saturdays ago, we had a township dumpster pass.  It’s always nice to get rid of a bunch of crap that is sitting around taking up space.

The universe abhors a vacuum but if your vacuum is full of clutter, then you have no space for anything new and better to enter.

Anyhow, after loading up the truck with our load and dropping it off, I drove over to my parents to pick up some stuff for them.

I loaded up the couch and a few boxes and then my mom reminded me that I could take the heavy mattress that Devon and I had stored there a few years ago.  So, we lugged it up the steps and proceeded t plop it on top of all the other stuff.

My mom told me to strap it down but I told her that it was heavy enough and I was only going a short distance and driving slowly at that.

Well, about a half a mile away from the entrance, out flew the mattress.  Thank god no one was behind me!

I did a loopty-loop and got out, into the middle of the road to load it back up.  There was no foul because there was no harm.

Yet, I tried to take the quick route and the easier way when I should have just heeded the advice of my mom.

Sometimes we need to just listen and apply, especially when the words are coming from someone older and wiser.

Think differently – Kyle Newell

 

P.S-If you’ve been having that voice in your head that keeps telling you it’s time to try something different in terms of your fitness, then you should check out what our 30-day trial is all about.  This is for you if you want to learn, be held accountable and add some spice to your fitness routine or heck, even just get started on one.  You can find out more about it here: http://www.newellstrength.com/30-day-risk-free-trial/