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Don’t Envy the Transformers

On our last date night a little over a week ago, Devon and I were talking about the brain and how change actually  happens.  

(Don’t you feel sorry for her sometimes that she is stuck with my weirdness?)

I was explaining to her the difference between thinking about change and when change actually happens.  Many people think and ponder changing their life for the better for months, years, heck, even decades!  

In their mind, change and transformation is this long, drawn out process that must be suffered through.

In reality, real change happens in a split fraction of a second, once you make up your mind to transform.  Will the physical manifestation happen in a split second?  Nope, but all things start in the mind first.  

People that have totally transformed their lives have done so by first making up their mind to do so.  So, while you may think about changing, it will remain nothing more than that; a fleeting thought that you have every now and again.  

When you finally make up your mind to transform, it’s like a lightning bolt.  

You don’t have to envy those that transform into the butterflies of life, you can BE one yourself once you decide to BE.

 

Be Unconventional – Kyle Newell

 

P.S-My new book is finally out on Amazon.  It’s all things fasting, from my point of view.  If you want a world class tutorial and ‘how to’ with my system of fasting, then you pick up a copy of  the book.  And if you like it, please leave a review.  You can also purchase at the gym for 5 dollars off. https://www.amazon.com/Panda-Diet-Unconventional-Approach-Lasting/dp/0578687372/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=kyle+newell&qid=1592831921&s=books&sr=1-2

 

P.P.S-If you or someone you know is looking to regain or simply begin their fitness journey, you can apply for a spot at this link and Coach Dana will be reaching out to you.  https://hillsborough.newellstrength.com/jumpstart

 

P.P.P.S-We will be having our first Restorative Ritualz workshop at Newell Strength in Hillsborough on Thursday, August 20th at 7:30 PM with YT.  This one is all about compassion and collaboration with you fellow friends. It’ll be about an hour and includes 33 minutes of guided meditation with Reiki Infused Sound Healing.  Spots are limited to 15 people, reserve a spot by emailing msyvonnetang@gmail.com




Fax About Focus

I remember when I first read the line, ‘What you focus on expands.’

Bam!  It hit me square in the jaw.  So profound, yet so simple.  

While you cannot control your thoughts, let alone anyone else’s thoughts, you can control what you focus on.  

For a long time, I trained myself to be like the Terminator, in my own mind.  As soon as I felt an emotion I didn’t like, I would ‘clear the calculator to zero’ and direct my attention elsewhere.  That is both a good and a bad quality depending on the circumstance.

Yet, I knew that I had a choice in what I focused on.  Clearing of the calculator was not good when it comes to deep, human relationships.  

Emotions are like lighter fluid for your focus.  Think about a time when a partner broke up with you.  You probably went through the gamut of ‘What if….’.  That is emotion + focus gone crazy.  Take those ‘what ifs’ and throw them out the window because they are an endless rabbit hole.  

The ability to stay focused on the prize is one of the hardest things to do.  It requires that you constantly connect to why you are doing what you are doing.  It’s very easy to lose focus on the bright shiny new object.  

Bright, shiny, new objects and unchained emotion are the two things you must be on guard for when it comes to remaining focused on the right things.  The goal is to keep the goal, the goal.

 

Be Unconventional – Kyle Newell

 

P.S-My new book is finally out on Amazon.  It’s all things fasting, from my point of view.  If you want a world class tutorial and ‘how to’ with my system of fasting, then you pick up a copy of  the book.  And if you like it, please leave a review.  You can also purchase at the gym for 5 dollars off. https://www.amazon.com/Panda-Diet-Unconventional-Approach-Lasting/dp/0578687372/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=kyle+newell&qid=1592831921&s=books&sr=1-2

 

P.P.S-If you or someone you know is looking to regain or simply begin their fitness journey, you can apply for a spot at this link and Coach Dana will be reaching out to you.  https://hillsborough.newellstrength.com/jumpstart

 

P.P.P.S-We will be having our first Restorative Ritualz workshop at Newell Strength in Hillsborough on Thursday, August 20th at 7:30 PM with YT.  This one is all about compassion and collaboration with you fellow friends. It’ll be about an hour and includes 33 minutes of guided meditation with Reiki Infused Sound Healing.  Spots are limited to 15 people, reserve a spot by emailing msyvonnetang@gmail.com

 




The Amazing Power of Reframing

I remember realizing the potential of my mindset back in 2006.  

I had always been into positive thinking and visualization since as early as I can remember as an athlete.

But one of the amazing things I learned back in 2006 was how to instantly reframe any situation.  It is a skill that we can all use (remember, all skills can be learned).

In this episode that I recorded last year, I talk about the power of reframing and give you a few techniques as to how you can start to hone in on this skill.

You can take a listen here: www.newellstrength.com/single-post/2019/08/05/The-Power-of-Reframing

 

Be Unconventional – Kyle Newell

 

P.S-My new book is finally out on Amazon.  It’s all things fasting, from my point of view.  If you want a world class tutorial and ‘how to’ with my system of fasting, then you pick up a copy of  the book.  And if you like it, please leave a review.  You can also purchase at the gym for 5 dollars off. https://www.amazon.com/Panda-Diet-Unconventional-Approach-Lasting/dp/0578687372/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=kyle+newell&qid=1592831921&s=books&sr=1-2

 

P.P.S-If you or someone you know is looking to regain or simply begin their fitness journey, you can apply for a spot at this link and Coach Dana will be reaching out to you.  https://hillsborough.newellstrength.com/jumpstart

 

P.P.P.S-We will be having our first Restorative Ritualz workshop at Newell Strength in Hillsborough on Thursday, August 20th at 7:30 PM with YT.  This one is all about compassion and collaboration with you fellow friends. It’ll be about an hour and includes 33 minutes of guided meditation with Reiki Infused Sound Healing.  Spots are limited to 15 people, reserve a spot by emailing msyvonnetang@gmail.com




Here’s How He Did It

A little over a year ago, roughly, right before I was about to take Braxton to martial arts, I decided I would take off his training wheels on his big boy bike.

It is something that I had wanted to do for a while and I thought we could at least start the process for 30 minutes or so.  

So, he and I go down to the garage and take off the trainers and head back up to the cul de sac.

I helped him get on and start running with him while holding the back of the seat for about 5 seconds and then I let go and boom, he nailed it on his first try, he just took off!

Devon and I both shrugged in amazement.

My expectations were clearly different than Braxton’s.   

What’s the point?  Well, as adults, we often expect things to be too hard or that they have to take a certain amount of time.  They don’t.

And, sometimes, as humans, we are just a natural at certain things.  In other things, not so much.  

Time for self evaluation….

 

Be Unconventional – Kyle Newell

 

P.S-My new book is finally out on Amazon.  It’s all things fasting, from my point of view.  If you want a world class tutorial and ‘how to’ with my system of fasting, then you pick up a copy of  the book.  And if you like it, please leave a review.  You can also purchase at the gym for 5 dollars off. https://www.amazon.com/Panda-Diet-Unconventional-Approach-Lasting/dp/0578687372/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=kyle+newell&qid=1592831921&s=books&sr=1-2

P.P.S-If you or someone you know is looking to regain or simply begin their fitness journey, you can apply for a spot at this link and Coach Dana will be reaching out to you.  https://hillsborough.newellstrength.com/jumpstart

P.P.P.S-We will be having our first Restorative Ritualz workshop at Newell Strength in Hillsborough on Thursday, August 20th at 7:30 PM with YT.  This one is all about compassion and collaboration with you fellow friends. It’ll be about an hour and includes 33 minutes of guided meditation with Reiki Infused Sound Healing.  Spots are limited to 15 people, reserve a spot by emailing msyvonnetang@gmail.com




Discover How to Learn More

A few weeks ago, I read a quote along the line of ‘Socrates was known as the world’s wisest man because he knew that he knew nothing’. 

 

Ha!

 

So brilliant.

 

Devon will tell you that one of the only times that I get agitated is when I go for any length of time without learning something.  

 

Around that same time that I read that quote, I had also decided to cut television time to no more than 2 viewings per week.  

 

I did it at first to get away from the negativity and mindless dribble that is ‘programmed’ into the programming.  

 

But then an even bigger benefit hit me, I now had that 30 minutes or so at night to learn even more, to read more, to study more to work on differents crafts.

 

If you want to learn more, replace a chunk of screen time with learning time.  Just start with one session and let the seed grow.

 

Be Unconventional – Kyle Newell

 

P.S-My new book is finally out on Amazon.  It’s all things fasting, from my point of view.  If you want a world class tutorial and ‘how to’ with my system of fasting, then you pick up a copy of  the book.  And if you like it, please leave a review.  You can also purchase at the gym for 5 dollars off. https://www.amazon.com/Panda-Diet-Unconventional-Approach-Lasting/dp/0578687372/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=kyle+newell&qid=1592831921&s=books&sr=1-2

 

P.P.S-If you or someone you know is looking to regain or simply begin their fitness journey, you can apply for a spot at this link and Coach Dana will be reaching out to you.  https://hillsborough.newellstrength.com/jumpstart

 

P.P.P.S-We will be having our first Restorative Ritualz workshop at Newell Strength in Hillsborough on Thursday, August 20th at 7:30 PM with YT.  This one is all about compassion and collaboration with you fellow friends. It’ll be about an hour and includes 33 minutes of guided meditation with Reiki Infused Sound Healing.  Spots are limited to 15 people, reserve a spot by emailing  msyvonnetang@gmail.com




It Takes a Village to Mold a Mind

Two weeks ago today, we went down the shore with the kids to celebrate our actual anniversary date.  

 

Our good friends, Cynthia and Louie, took us out clamming.

 

It was a first for me and my family.  

I watched as Braxton took it all in.  Anytime he was curious, I would tell him to go ask Louie why or what he was doing.  

 

That way he could learn.  

 

This process went on all day and all the way through the point when we ate the clams for dinner.

 

Just like yesterday’s email, it’s about listening, learning and learning by asking questions.  When we converse with the world, we get to organize our thoughts.  And if you only converse with a small number of people, you have a limited world view.

 

It takes a village to organize a young mind, or any mind for that matter.  ?And much of what you learn through talking to others is based upon their body language and reactions, rather than what they have to say in response (although that is important too).

 

There have been many great therapists that have said minimal words in counseling questions, rather, they’d just sit there, and let the client organize their thoughts as they talked through it to another person (the therapist).  

 

When you start looking at interactions and conversations this way, the world becomes much more magical.

 

Be Unconventional – Kyle Newell

 

P.S-My new book is finally out on Amazon.  It’s all things fasting, from my point of view.  If you want a world class tutorial and ‘how to’ with my system of fasting, then you pick up a copy of  the book.  And if you like it, please leave a review.  You can also purchase at the gym for 5 dollars off. https://www.amazon.com/Panda-Diet-Unconventional-Approach-Lasting/dp/0578687372/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=kyle+newell&qid=1592831921&s=books&sr=1-2

 

P.P.S-If you or someone you know is looking to regain or simply begin their fitness journey, you can apply for a spot at this link and Coach Dana will be reaching out to you.  https://hillsborough.newellstrength.com/jumpstart

 

P.P.P.S-We will be having our first Restorative Ritualz workshop at Newell Strength in Hillsborough on Thursday, August 20th at 7:30 PM with YT.  This one is all about compassion and collaboration with you fellow friends. It’ll be about an hour and includes 33 minutes of guided meditation with Reiki Infused Sound Healing.  Spots are limited to 15 people, reserve a spot by emailing  msyvonnetang@gmail.com




Learn to Listen and Listen to Learn

22 years ago, I was fortunate enough to go out to East Lansing, Michigan, for Michigan State’s basketball camp.

 

It was the summer before my senior year and I was and still am, a HUGE Spartan fan.  I was contemplating going to school there the following year (I received an academic scholarship which I later turned down) and basketball was my first love so it was a leveraged trip.

 

Coach Izzo, whom we have a picture of him and I hanging in our house, was young, but a true star in the making.  

Before every session of camp he would say, ‘You need to learn to listen and listen to learn’.  

 

It sounds so simple and it is, that is what makes it brilliant.  But it’s by no means easy.

 

One of the great things about having a partner like Devon is that she calls me out on my BS.  And recently, she brought up to me in more ways than one how I was not living this principle when it came to our relationship.

 

Sting a little bit? Sure, but it was true.  I set my ego aside (and believe me, I will have to do that many more times) and began to immediately put this to practice. 

 

Don’t be a ‘waiting to talker’ nor someone that already knows it all.  Because if you know it all, then your time here on Earty is essentially useless.

 

Learn to listen and listen to learn. 

 

Be Unconventional – Kyle Newell

 

P.S-My new book is finally out on Amazon.  It’s all things fasting, from my point of view.  If you want a world class tutorial and ‘how to’ with my system of fasting, then you pick up a copy of  the book.  And if you like it, please leave a review.  You can also purchase at the gym for 5 dollars off. https://www.amazon.com/Panda-Diet-Unconventional-Approach-Lasting/dp/0578687372/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=kyle+newell&qid=1592831921&s=books&sr=1-2

 

P.P.S-If you or someone you know is looking to regain or simply begin their fitness journey, you can apply for a spot at this link and Coach Dana will be reaching out to you.  https://hillsborough.newellstrength.com/jumpstart

 

P.P.P.S-We will be having our first Restorative Ritualz workshop at Newell Strength in Hillsborough on Thursday, August 20th at 7:30 PM with YT.  This one is all about compassion and collaboration with you fellow friends. It’ll be about an hour and includes 33 minutes of guided meditation with Reiki Infused Sound Healing.  Spots are limited to 15 people, reserve a spot by emailing  msyvonnetang@gmail.com




Discover Why Balance is Jess’ Super Power

You may or may not have heard, but we now have a second podcast to go along with Unlocking Your Inner Strength, Hillsborough and Hunterdon REAL.

I have big things planned for it, so stay tuned for that.  

 

Recently, my sister in law, Jess, was gracious enough to hop on for an interview about her world of real estate and all that goes with being a busy, working, mother and wife. 

 

I am so proud of the strides she’s made in her second career (first was as a teacher as you will hear).  You can take a listen to the episode here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/hillsborough-and-hunterdon-real/id1515959526?i=1000483977484

 

*If you know of any experts or local celebrities that would like to be on the show, just let me know and I will try to make it happen!

 

Be Unconventional – Kyle Newell

 

P.S-My new book is finally out on Amazon.  It’s all things fasting, from my point of view.  If you want a world class tutorial and ‘how to’ with my system of fasting, then you pick up a copy of  the book.  And if you like it, please leave a review.  You can also purchase at the gym for 5 dollars off. https://www.amazon.com/Panda-Diet-Unconventional-Approach-Lasting/dp/0578687372/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=kyle+newell&qid=1592831921&s=books&sr=1-2

 

P.P.S-If you or someone you know is looking to regain or simply begin their fitness journey, you can apply for a spot at this link and Coach Dana will be reaching out to you.  https://hillsborough.newellstrength.com/jumpstart

 

P.P.P.S-We will be having our first Restorative Ritualz workshop at Newell Strength in Hillsborough on Thursday, August 20th at 7:30 PM with YT.  This one is all about compassion and collaboration with you fellow friends. It’ll be about an hour and includes 33 minutes of guided meditation with Reiki Infused Sound Healing.  Spots are limited to 15 people, reserve a spot by emailing  msyvonnetang@gmail.com




Be Tough Like Silk

A week ago, I was outside, early in the morning, doing some backwards walking, barefoot.  It is great for calming the mind and also getting  your brain turned on and tuned in.

 

Well, the thought popped into my head about the theme for the day for Monday’s Mental Toughness.  

 

Silk…..

 

Yup, not sure where that came from, so I looked it up.  Silk is stronger than steel, pound for pound.  Yet it’s fluid, it’ll absorb, it’ll catch ideas (just like a spider’s web, which is also made from silk).  

 

Be tough like silk.  

 

There’s a new one for ya.

 

Be Unconventional – Kyle Newell

 

P.S-My new book is finally out on Amazon.  It’s all things fasting, from my point of view.  If you want a world class tutorial and ‘how to’ with my system of fasting, then you pick up a copy of  the book.  And if you like it, please leave a review.  You can also purchase at the gym for 5 dollars off. https://www.amazon.com/Panda-Diet-Unconventional-Approach-Lasting/dp/0578687372/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=kyle+newell&qid=1592831921&s=books&sr=1-2

 

P.P.S-If you or someone you know is looking to regain or simply begin their fitness journey, you can apply for a spot at this link and Coach Dana will be reaching out to you.  https://hillsborough.newellstrength.com/jumpstart

 

P.P.P.S-We will be having our first Restorative Ritualz workshop at Newell Strength in Hillsborough on Thursday, August 20th at 7:30 PM with YT.  This one is all about compassion and collaboration with you fellow friends. It’ll be about an hour and includes 33 minutes of guided meditation with Reiki Infused Sound Healing.  Spots are limited to 15 people, reserve a spot by emailing  msyvonnetang@gmail.com

 




Yes, Emma Eats Rocks

A few weekends ago, we took the kids down to the river behind the house to swim around and play.  

I was on Emma duty as Devon explored with Brax, Tank, Mateen and Dax.

And as I had Emma sitting in the shallows, feeling the current, she would reach down, pull up a rock and then hand it to me and then laugh.  Every few rocks she would taste and then spit out.

 

What?!  

 

I learned from one of my brain books long ago that infants and the very young, learn a lot by putting everything in or near their mouth.  This is the area of their body with the most developed sensory nerve endings.  

 

Plus, she builds her immune system, just as the boys have done, and it worked for them.  I believe I remember each of them only being sick just once.

 

Yes, at the Newell house, they still drink out of hoses, have dirt constantly on their hands and run around barefoot.  

 

Every now and then one of them gets stung by some critter but Devon and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

 

Freedom to explore or freedom from having to explore.

 

It’s all exploration and it’s all up the individual parent.  You don’t have to be just like everyone else.  That’s the beauty and the spice of life. 

 

Be Unconventional – Kyle Newell

 

P.S-My new book is finally out on Amazon.  It’s all things fasting, from my point of view.  If you want a world class tutorial and ‘how to’ with my system of fasting, then you pick up a copy of  the book.  And if you like it, please leave a review.  https://www.amazon.com/Panda-Diet-Unconventional-Approach-Lasting/dp/0578687372/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=kyle+newell&qid=1592831921&s=books&sr=1-2

 

P.P.S-Now that we are taking new clients once again, we are opening the doors for July to 12 new trial members.  This is just what the doctor ordered for you if you’ve been locked in, with little outdoor time, not enough physical activity and not enough fun.  You can apply for a spot at this link and Coach Dana will be reaching out to you.  https://hillsborough.newellstrength.com/jumpstart