Braxton Becomes BMX

Ten days ago, we went over to the BMX track as a family at the invite of my brother in law.

He kept telling us that Braxton would love to ride the track and the sport.

So, we didn’t know what to expect, but I did know enough to make sure he wore long pants, just in case.

In the first practice lap, he fell going around the steep embankment turn, but got up and kept going.

That was the only time he fell the entire night.

When it came time to race, he finished 2nd out of 5 kids and all of them were 3 years old, he was the only two year old.

Yes, I was a proud papa!

It reminded me of the movie, White Men Can’t Jump.  Braxton shows up in a regular bike helmet, a Batman t-shirt and a regular old strider bike and doesn’t look the part.

But when the competition got going, he showed up.

When we left that night, we had to basically tear him away from the track.  He was in heaven.

He didn’t have fear, even after he fell.  He was only thinking about the exact moments that he was racing on the track.  He was BEING, not thinking.

Thus, Braxton became BMX on that night.  The musician is one with his musical intstrument.


Find the lesson in here.

Think differently – Kyle Newell

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Client Showcase: Chris DiStasio

Chris first started training with us a few years ago after he saw a promo for Ripped Dads pop up on Instagram.

Chris was hesitant at first because he had tried other programs to no avail.

Yet, it was quickly apparent that Chris as in right place.  Chris is religious with his 5 AM workouts and is on a mission to be the strongest dad to his 3 daughters that he can possibly be.

Here is his experience in his own words:

I’m nearing two years into my journey at Newell Strength and I couldn’t be happier that I made the decision to join.  I began as a member of a Ripped Dads contest, which was a great immersion into Newell Strength bringing with it the added motivation and incentive of a competition.  Since then, I’ve continued to take advantage of the breadth of programming options available—from individualized training to MET class, and most recently Small Group Training.

For me, it’s important that when I step into the gym, I do not have to guess at the “right” thing to do.  At Newell Strength, having programming that easily scales to my abilities alongside an amazing group of trainers has been key to my progress.

The trainers and staff at Newell are second to none.  They are always there to provide expert guidance (or a spot) and (more than once) have been able to modify my programming to help me prepare for a specific activity.

A few things that have resonated with me at Newell Strength:

  • fitness/wellness is a journey that requires consistency and patience
  • it’s meaningful to set small goals—incremental changes become significant over time
  • working to become better at something today (than I was yesterday) is not only an attainable goal in the gym, but also one that translates well to other facets of life.

Training at Newell Strength has had a great positive impact on me and I would highly recommend it to anyone looking at transforming their approach to fitness.


Think differently – Kyle Newell

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This Can Lead to Blurred Lines

As life has gone on, I have gotten better and more swift at making decisions.

I am usually not one to hem and haw.

And if you know how your brain works, you will see that if you are always putting yourself in situations where you have to make a decision, you will have blurred lines of what is allowed and what isn’t.

When you are trying to transform your life, you need to have clear rules of discipline that you are going to live by, no matter what.

If you are trying to stick with diet strategy and are always giving into peer pressure and straying from your plan, its not will power, it’s simply that you don’t have hard and fast rules.

Habits and in this case, habit of thought, allows you to free up headspace because you don’t have to think about it any longer.

And a decision not made or constantly having to make them eat up an enormous amount of mental energy.


Think differently – Kyle Newell

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What Came First?

Last week, the Professor dropped another knowledge nugget in Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu class.

He was speaking of botanics and how the apple seed knows it wants to be an apple but it has to spring from the tree with roots.

The roots are the lifeblood of the apple.  If all goes well, the tree will grow and then an apple or quite a few will spring forward.

The apple seed has an infinite intelligence.

It’s okay to know the end result and work backwards, until you arrive at step 1, which is the apple seed taking root in the ground.

Everything can be used as a tool for your transformation if you choose it to be.


Think differently – Kyle Newell

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Stepping Over $100 Bills to Pick up Nickels

I remember when I first went out to Arizona to learn from the great Charles Poliquin.

It was at my BioSignature level 1 certification that I was exposed to the nitty gritty of nutrients, hormones and blood work.

It became apparent to me that perhaps the reason I wasn’t as lean as I thought I should have been or the reason my testosterone had always tested low was because I was deficient in zinc or magnesium.

Surely that had to be it.

Looking back on it, I was stepping over $100 bills to pick up nickels.  It would have been wiser on my part to look at the big rocks of sleep, eating enough and taking some time off.

In today’s episode of Unlocking Your Inner Strength, I discuss key mistakes that people make in their fat loss efforts in terms of stepping over $100 bills.  You can take a listen here:


Think differently – Kyle Newell

P.S-If you’ve been having that voice in your head that keeps telling you it’s time to try something different in terms of your fitness, then you should check out what our 30-day trial is all about.  This is for you if you want to learn, be held accountable and add some spice to your fitness routine or heck, even just get started on one.  You can find out more about it here:

The Benefits of For-give-ness


I vividly recall a recess in second grade when a kid named Jeremy sucker punched me right in my lip.


I was bleeding but I didn’t react.  Instead, when the aid came over I told her it wasn’t his fault, I wasn’t hurt and we were just playing.


I chose to forgive him in that moment.  I could have sought my revenge and plotted to jam a spork in his side, but I didn’t.


Most people go through life holding on to so many grudges and qualms that they can’t see the fact they are living in the past, not experiencing the present moment.


As always, I put my Mind Map lenses on every chance I get to examine human nature and how it is unfolding in my life.


The human brain doesn’t like open loops.  I’ve discussed before about how the brain will hyper focus on open loops until they closed (this is how To Be Continued….works).


When we fail to forgive an event or person, we are shackling ourselves to the past.  We are keeping an open loop so to speak.  That loop is open because we’ve refused to allow it to die because of the very grudge we are holding in our heart.


So, you have this instance in which brings up bad memories, yet you, yourself perpetuates it.  Once you forgive, you close the loop and your brain can focus in the here and now.


A Coach once told me that forgiveness is really about ‘thank you for giving me this opportunity to grow’.  Wow!  It still impacts me the same way every time I hear it.


Being upset and angry isn’t going to help you grow your world.


Forgiveness means ‘giving forward’.  You can’t move forward if you are chained to a memory.  And really, lets break that down a little further.


A memory is just a figment of your imagination, just like the future is a figment of your imagination.  To our brains, time doesn’t exist, it’s just a theoretical concept.


Every minute that goes by that you don’t forgive is another minute that you are giving to the energy of recreating those lower energy levels of emotion that you experienced in very moment.


I personally take the time to do ‘the work’ every morning about one situation that needs my attention and forgiveness.  This falls under my ‘Family’ category of the F-5 system since if I don’t’ clear my head of the lower energy fields of holding anger and hurt then it affects my family directly.


As I always say, do the opposite of what most people are doing and you’ll be on the right path most of the time (99%).


Struggle in life is going to happen, suffering is optional.  Forgive those in your life that need to be forgiven and give yourself that gift.

I Can Really Bring Out the Weird In People

Two weeks ago, the men’s group from Newell Strength went out for a bite to eat.

And at the table, in the course of riveting conversation, one of the guys says, ‘Man, you can really bring the weird out in people’.

I chuckled as did all the others.

It was one of the greatest compliments anyone could give me.  By being weird and not hiding it, I hope that others can let their guard down too.

How exciting and interesting is life if you are only surrounded by a bunch of zombies and robots, people that are always trying to ride the road of vanilla?

The theme for this year is not to be more than you are, just BE all that you already are.

If you’re ready to have a Mind Map about your weirdness, just reply with ‘weird’ and I’ll be glad to give you a session.

Think differently – Kyle Newell


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1- Check out this podcast I did on Resistance (any time you are trying to improve your life, you will face this!)

2-     Perhaps you’d just like to increase your mental game.  In that case, you can check out our Time Mastery Manual (the information in here will create ‘new’ time for you and give you the ultimate freedom in life)


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Old Man Look at My Life

Old Man Look at My Life

I remember two years ago when I wrote an essay about Newell Strength in 60 years.

It was actually Christmas eve as I was writing it and I had to stop after every damn sentence to gather myself.

A few weeks later we had our staff holiday party and I shared with the team bits and pieces of what I had written and again, emotion overcame me.

I used to think showing my emotions was a sign of weakness, now I know it’s a sign of inner strength.

Nevertheless, when I wrote that piece about going into Newell Strength for one final workout when I was well into my 90’s, not a person in there knowing me from Adam, it was a flash-forward about life and the special memories and connections we make with others on a daily basis.

Life is precious, you know that, but YOU, like me, forget that sometimes.

Devon took this picture of me and Brax the other morning when I slept on the recliner with him as he was running a high fever.

I have been toying around with this idea of my Old Man article for a few weeks and this picture cemented it for me. Enjoy…

Old man look at my life,
I’m a lot like you were.
Old man look at my life,
I’m a lot like you were.

Braxton, you are a lot like me. Except you are better. I am proud of the man you have become. My life transformed when you came into our world. I think back to when I could still pick you up and hold you. You are still figuring things out and that’s normal. I want you to know that you are a great person and you have the potential to inspire the world. You are like me in that you want the best for people and yet, you struggle with how to accomplish that mission. You are like me, only you have completed my weaknesses.

Old man look at my life,
and there’s so much more
Live alone in a paradise
That makes me think of two.

Braxton, you are only 24 and you feel like you should have ‘made it’ already. Don’t worry, I am 59 and I still don’t know what I want to do with my life, fully. You have endless possibilities in front of you. The world is your oyster. You are going to be one of the greatest leaders ever to walk the earth, I believe that in my heart and soul. You are beginning to realize that heaven and hell are an in apart because paradise arises within YOU, inside your mind. The ‘two’ that you live with are the angels of fear and love. Always choose love, it will never steer you wrong.

Love lost, such a cost,
Give me things
that don’t get lost.
Like a coin that won’t get tossed
Rolling home to you.

Braxton, there’s that word LOVE again. Love can live forever and impact the world forever. Yes, you will have many relationships in life but they will ALL come to an end sooner or later. In the end, it will be just YOU and the trail of love that you blazed. Me and your mom will one day be gone but our love for you will never die. Your girlfriends, your brothers and sisters, your wife, they will all one day be gone too. Yet, your children and their children will always be able to draw strength from the LOVE you gave. Your love will never BE lost. It is the home of your spirit.

Old man take a look at my life
I’m a lot like you
I need someone to love me
the whole day through
Ah, one look in my eyes
and you can tell that’s true.

Braxton, you are a lot like me, only infinitely greater. And that’s what all parents want for their children. The greatest enemy you will ever face is the angel of fear. When you face it, walk through it. Put a knife into fear’s heart and scream a scream of victory at the top of your longs. That’s what I know you WILL do. Mom and my love for you will live on forever. We all need love in this life but I want you to remember that your ability to love will be limited by how much love you have for yourself. My life changed the day I literally told myself I loved WHO I was, out on that beach in So Cal. When relationships end, the love will not.

Lullabies, look in your eyes,
Run around the same old town.
Doesn’t mean that much to me
To mean that much to you.

Braxton, it feels like only yesterday that this picture was taken. I would love to live that moment over and over again. To look into those baby eyes of yours, the innocence, the pure joy. Always keep that with you, it’s a rare gift in an adult. Wherever you go in life, there you are. You can explore, you can go out and find yourself, but the hidden treasure is in your heart. The things of the material world will fall away, one by one. Moments like you laying on me are special, cherish them. Every minute is a blessing but once every so often you will KNOW when you are in one of those life long memories, a snap shot that is branded on your heart. We are proud of you no matter what.

I’ve been first and last
Look at how the time goes past.
But I’m all alone at last.
Rolling home to you.

Braxton, I’ve won some in life and lost some. I loved winning but I hated losing. That is the spirit of a competitor. Before you know it, you will be writing a letter to your son, only he too, will carry on the legacy. He will BE better than YOU and that is the best gift you could ever give. You are like me in that you draw inner strength from being alone, from sitting down by the river. Know thyself, know where you can connect to God and go there often. If you don’t go within, you will go without. Be comfortable Being alone, its one of the best places in the world to BE. When you can be alone with yourself, it means you truly love yourself.

Old man take a look at my life
I’m a lot like you
I need someone to love me
the whole day through
Ah, one look in my eyes
and you can tell that’s true.

Braxton, I know you are a lot like me, only you are better. Our spirits came into contact for a reason and we don’t yet the know the full impact of our spirits teaming up, but I do know its for something great. I would one day, in another realm, another life time, hope to find a spirit as strong as yours but you see, spirits, our souls are like finger prints, unique and never duplicated. Mom and I will look down your legacy from the skies above one day and have a smile on our faces. The physical world is fleeting. Your love and spirt will live on into infinity. Remember the impact that your words and actions have on others. Someone is always looking up to you and watching you. I am sorry for the times I acted in a way that came from a place other than love. Be better than I was.

Old man look at my life,
I’m a lot like you were.
Old man look at my life,
I’m a lot like you were.

Braxton, yes you are. Only you are better. Continue to bring your ‘light’ to other people’s darkness. The world needs a man like YOU. You are a lot like me, only better.

The Horrible Diet and Horrible Training Plan

Yes, I am going to recommend horrible programs for you to follow.  Horrible, according to your doctor and the mainstream that is.

I remember when I really grew my coaching wings.  I was sick and tired of following the dogmatic approach of body part training and conventional dieting.  I was bored mentally and I wasn’t getting the results that I wanted.  I knew there was a better way, but I didn’t know how.

That was when I entered college back in 1999.  I had some semblance of where I was heading but didn’t have an exact route.  It was a process of trial and error for sure.

I would head to the university fitness center and follow my full body program from the first book on training that I ever read, Big Beyond Belief by Leo Costa and the legendary Tom Platz.  I had actually ordered that out of a bodybuilding magazine, I doubt many millennials even know what mail order means, lol!

That program alone got me strong, very strong.  And it started to make a lot of my fellow co-eds ask questions as to why I was training squat and bench on the same day and why my workouts were so short compared to other people and on and on.

I tried to explain with my novice knowledge that training was more about the nervous system and stress response than it was about focusing on the external variables.  Most people either under trained or spent way too long in the gym and not enough time sleeping and recovering.  I remember distinctly from that book the A.R.E principle.  It stated that the alarm response was first initiated in the nervous system.

That is what happens when we train. This is then followed by the resistance phase in which the body adapts to the meet the demands of the new stress you are placing upon it.  This is where it will get stronger, grow bigger muscles and lose body fat if you allow it to.

But, if you aren’t managing yourself properly, you will enter the exhaustion phase.  I’ll admit that very few people push themselves this hard in their training to even sniff this zone.  This is called overtraining.  However, most people put themselves there by having out of control stress levels and not enough rest and fun in their lives.  I don’t want to go too far down that rabbit hole here but do know that it is all a matter of the nervous system.

My training philosophy was born, which I will get back to in a second.

Nutrition on the other hand?  Well, let’s just say that I wanted to get big and muscular and fast!  I ate damn near 4-5K calories per day and it wasn’t long before I was big and fat!  I even remember riding down the street on my bike (I used to ride everywhere around campus) and someone yelled out a car window, ‘Lose some weight!’.  Hmmm…I thought, that’s weird and a bit obnoxious.

I wasn’t sure how they knew from a drive by that I was overweight, after all I wasn’t morbidly obese (260 pounds).  And then I looked down in shame and noticed that my back tire, although not flat, was very much compressed and looking flat underneath my weight.

That was my first clue that there was much more to the old calorie in vs. calorie expended debate that had become common knowledge.  I started reading and then reading some more.  I even remember that by the time I was a senior I had developed my own philosophy on re-feeding and cheat meals.  I compiled all my findings and personal experience and set up an appointment with my nutrition professor.

Man, you would have thought that I had two heads the way this dude looked at my.  I quickly realized that he didn’t know jack sh** and that I was going to have to discover and implement this stuff myself.  To say I was ahead of the curve by the time I was a senior at UD would be an understatement.

And then, I graduated and began my internship with Rutgers Football strength and conditioning.  I had still had my full body philosophy of training but I did mix some bodybuilding methods in there when I wanted to really pack on muscle.  I learned a great deal that summer from JB (my first mentor).  The pace those players trained at and the weights they were lifting were insane.  I would eat meals with the team and dudes that were shredded would be throwing a half a stick of butter in their oatmeal along with 6 whole eggs.  I couldn’t believe it.

Back to the drawing board.  That was when it sank in that food was a drug and diet was more a function of what was going on in the internal, biochemical and hormonal environment into which the food entered had a much bigger impact than counting calories.  Yup, food’s effects on the human body were more about the nervous system than anything else.  As a later mentor, Dax Moy, told me: it’s not what you eat but rather whom you are when you eat it.

I continued to develop a blend of philosophies to come up with my own training and nutrition principles.  And they have continued to evolve to this very day and yes, they are horrible according to most doctors.  Yet, I would put my blood work ‘returns’ (much like you should ask for a tax return of a financial advisor before hiring them) against any doctor and I know I would come out on top.

‘Yes, Kyle, but what are these things you speak of?!’  Don’t worry my good friend, I was about to get to that.

For nutrition, here are my principles with a brief, very brief explanation for space’s sake:

  • You should practice eating less often along with practicing intermittent fasting. This means I eat twice per day and I don’t eat before 16 hours past my last meal, usually somewhere between noon and 2 pm.  This allows for much greater insulin sensitivity (better fat loss, and better able to bullet proof yourself against diseaseà insulin is responsible for a lot of inflammation in our bodies).  Forget all that B.S that breakfast is the most important meal of the day and that you have to eat 6 small meals per day.  I call the B.S that they are rooted in.
  • Second, eat predominantly organic, grass fed sources of protein and fat. Yes, fat!  Cholesterol is the precursor to all sex-hormone production.  Too many men are walking around with bitch-tits and testosterone levels equal with that of a eunuch.  Now, if you are eating fat sources not from things like organic fed foods, then that is a different story and for a different time.  In addition, get your good poly-unsaturated fats from things like organic olive oil and avocados.  Fat is great for hormone production; protein is great for muscle repair and they are both very filling.  I eat what I want, when I want if they fit into these categories and as long as my fasting period is over.  Yes, you can have carbs, and even cheat days but again, let’s stick t the basics here and now.

For training:

  • Cardio as you’ve been told to do it is garbage and a BIG waste of time! Most doctors don’t have a clue about training, so let me educate you and them for a brief minute.  The muscular system drives the cardiovascular system, not the other way around.  So the more muscle you activate, the more cardiovascular output and stress you get, which makes the heart stronger.  How do you do this?  You train for peripheral heart action which means head to toe things like a pushup into a squat pattern.  Take your grandmother’s idea of yesteryear that stated you had to train a body part such as chest, rest two minutes, chat a little bit and then after that waste of an hour is done, you had to spend 30 minutes on a hamster wheel and throw that shit out the window into a trash dumpster and set it on fire!
  • You HAVE to lift weights! I am adamant about this.  Yes, you can run and ride your bike but those things will not make you a stronger body.  They will not grow much muscle if any and the slow long distance types of exercise actually raise cortisol levels (one of our main stress hormones).  And those forms of exercise do nothing to stimulate bone strength.  Yes, I’ll admit, I do those things here and there and they are excellent for brain health but not for being a strong S.O.B.  I don’t care if you are man or woman, you need to get the body stronger and gain some muscle, they are your fountain of youth.  Strength is the foundation for all of your other physical qualities.  Train with weights, train for the aim of getting out of breath and train full body.  No, you will not hurt yourself if you go about this in a smart way and if you aren’t sure what a smart way is, then hire a coach to teach you.

Yes, they sound horrible and I am sure snowflakes all over the world would run for cover if they were told this by their college professors.  Good thing I’m not their college professors.  As always, if you do the opposite of what the ‘herd’ does in life, you will usually be much better off.  It’s no different when it comes to your health and fitness.  Get after it!