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The Average American Lives Only…

A few weeks ago, I wrote a letter to the boys about how many remaining days I had left based on projections.

 

The average American lives 28,470 days and chances are, if you are reading this, you are probably at, near or past the halfway point.

 

No, it’s not morbid to think about.

 

You must live with some sense of urgency.  In fact, today is Suzy’s birthday (aka Devon), which marks the passage of another year for her.

 

Something I’ve challenged Suzy to do is to make a list of 12 habits for this next year and implement one per month.  In essence, she will stack monthly habits on top of the previous month, leaving her with 12 new behaviors come next April Fool’s Day.

 

Now, imagine if she did this each year.  Heck, imagine if you did this each year!  In ten years, you’d have 120 new habits that can dramatically alter the course of your life!

 

Life is about growth.

 

Growth makes us happy.

 

Therefore, life is about being in a state of happiness as much as possible.

 

Start making that list.

 

Think differently- Kyle Newell

 

P.S-Whenever you’re ready here are 3 more ways we can help you transform your life, lose weight and gain bundles of energy (and possibly win $10,000!):

 

1- Check out this podcast I did on Resistance (any time you are trying to improve your life, you will face this!)

http://unlockingyourinnerstrength.libsyn.com/uyis001-resistance-is-a-bitch

2-     Perhaps you’d just like to increase your mental game.  In that case, you can check out our Time Mastery Manual (the information in here will create ‘new’ time for you and give you the ultimate freedom in life) http://kylenewell.com/time

 

  1. Our annual, 6-week Fat Shredder contest. If you are ready to shred for the summer and want a simple, no-gimmicks approach. A program in which you just have to show up, 3 times per week and have all the accountability that you would ever need and then some, simply send and email to devon@newellstrength.com with the subject: ‘shredder’.



Clarity is Power

My personal word for the year is clarity.

 

Maybe it’s because it has been burned into my brain that a lack of clarity causes the brain and nervous system to go into a state of threat.

 

But maybe it’s also because I possess self-awareness and I realize that clarity is one of my weaknesses.  And it starts with the self and then that will allow you to provide clarity for those that you lead.

 

Make no mistake about it, you are a leader.  It may be to your family; it may be to friends or it may also be to an organization.  Leadership requires one to be clear.

 

I have found as my leadership role grows in my life that the clearer I am on my direction and immutable laws of the life, the better those that I am leading are able to perform.

 

So why is clarity so important?  Well, Mind Map has taught me that the brain is a pattern recognition machine.  This means that we need prediction then response and repeat.

 

If there is a lack of a pattern or clarity, we retreat into a reactive state.  And my fellow man, there is a HUGE difference between response and reaction.

 

I recently finished a great book about General George Patton called Patton on Leadership.  Lucky for you, I have been writing notes like a mad man about my takeaways from the book which I will now share with you.

 

Some of these directly talk about clarity but most of them don’t. That don’t matter now that you know that clarity is leadership, which by itself is super powerful and will give you a huge advantage over damn near anyone else in life.

 

‘Winning is a habit, so is losing’:  Ah, one of my favorite words, habit.  All transformation is about habit destruction or formation.  We get used to certain patterns in life and then just tend to go on auto pilot.  The reason that winning in life seems so daunting to most men is because they have been stuck in a pattern of losing for so long.  And from some of my other writings you may remember that one of the most powerful forces in human development is momentum.

 

‘A leader has to be ahead of his men’:  Think about your family for a minute.  Are you setting the example for them that you wish for them to BE?  Are you preaching health and fitness yet failing to take care of your own self because your schedule is too busy?  Are you preaching to them to go after their dreams with gusto, yet you are sitting in a cubicle like a caged rat?  Get out in front of those that you lead.  Lead by example.

 

‘A leader is a man who can adapt principles to circumstances’:  Not sure if you caught it above when I mentioned ‘immutable laws’.  These are you guiding principles in your life.  So the first step in being able to adapt your principles is to know your principles.  I’ll give you an example of one of my mine; I am in responsible for everything that happens to me in my life.  Sound crazy?  Maybe, but it also gives me ultimate power over my life.  And when something goes wrong or a mistake happens, I apply the principle which allows me to learn and course correct.

 

‘Truly important decisions, those involving core principles, don’t require much time for thought’:  Again, you can see the importance of having clarity about your core principles in life.  Most people don’t have core principles, or if they do, it’s what they believe they should have as core principles according to society.  Think for yourself!  When you know your immutable laws, you can make lightening quick decisions regarding things like parenting, financials, fun and moral decisions.

 

‘Most leaders become leaders because they are uncommon and they know it’:  Dizzy Dean said ‘If you done it, it ain’t bragging’.  I done it.  By that, I mean that I am a leader.  I actually know this more from a little reverse engineering because I know that I am uncommon and a different breed.  But that’s not because I was given some genetic gift.  I simply chose to access my gift and instill discipline in my life to do the things that need to be done on a daily basis.  I have taught people my time mastery principles, my morning routine, my learning routines and I know that very few of them actually implement those things.  We have the same knowledge and information, yet it’s the consistent action that separates us.  Be uncommon and you will become a leader by default.

 

‘Every man who hears you speak must know what you want.  You can be wrong, but never be doubt when you speak!  Any doubt or fear in your voice and the troops can feel it.  Another thing, never give a command in a seated position (even on the phone)’:  Man, this is powerful.  When dealing with your wife, be a MAN.  Make a decision and go with it, even if it turns out to be wrong.  Doubt crushes forward momentum.  Men are supposed to be decision makers for the household and for the rest of the people they lead.  Followers are allowed to have doubt, but not leaders.  You know how you can make those that follow you have less fear?  By you acting with extreme confidence and having no doubt in your voice.

 

‘As Patton saw it, part of command is an ability to narrow focus, excluding from your field of vision those aspects of reality that would very sensibly create ‘fear’ in an average person.  If this is stupidity, embrace it wholeheartedly’:  This quote is directly related to clarity even though it doesn’t mention the word.  When I was building Newell Strength, I made some crazy decisions when you looked at it from an outsider’s perspective.  I wasn’t doing this out of carelessness. Nope.  I was acting out of absolute clarity on my vision and what I knew Newell Strength could become.  When I resigned from my cushy teaching job, I was told that I was nuts, stupid and short-sighted.  It didn’t matter, but it would have if I didn’t develop the ability to have such a  tightly narrowed focus on my dream.

 

‘Advancement comes from habitually doing more than you are asked to do’:  Be clear on what is expected of you and then do more than that consistently.  There will always be another rung on the ladder to go up for someone that does this.  I can tell you that from my role at Newell Strength.  Those coaches and personnel that have done this have had a steady climb and created the roles of their career dreams.  Those that haven’t, well, they floundered and got fired.

 

‘A genuine career requires a focused commitment of life energy’:  Are you just going through the motions?  Do you have a job that means nothing to you?  And if so, are you willing to chase the career that you want?  If so, you can only do that by focusing your energy like a laser on something that mentally engages you, day in and day out.  And you can only do this by focusing not necessarily on WHAT you are doing, but WHOM you are being.

 

‘A foolish consistency is the hobgoblin of little minds-Emerson’:  Remember how I said one of my immutable laws in life was to realize that I am responsible for everything that happens in my life?  Well shame on you if you don’tJ.  That law has allowed me to be able to look in the mirror of life, over and over, and say, ‘Kyle, what you are doing isn’t working, learn from it and try a different way or find a teacher that can teach you a different way’.  Those men that become so married to their ideas of the ways things should be done are the ones that suffer from little minds and probably little you know what’s too.

 

‘Leadership is about balancing timing with available resources.  Opportunities are easily lost by waiting for perfect conditions’.  Perfect conditions rarely if ever exist, but you wouldn’t know that unless you were clear about timing.  You need to know when to strike.  Some of this is intuition and gut feelings but it always comes down to knowing what available resources you have on hand, be it finances or people.

 

This book was awesome and I suggest you read it.  If not, just know that to be a leader and to BE a true man, you must bring clarity to each day.  Clarity to lead yourself first which will then allow you to lead those that are following you to the best of your abilities.

 

Now go get it tattooed on your left pec so you don’t forget it.

 




The Pitbull Attack on my Birthday

The Pitbull Attack on my Birthday

Two years ago, on my birthday to be exact, we took Dax and Mateen over to the dog park before going to see a movie later on that night.

Devon was 8 months pregnant with Braxton at that point.  We were already at the dog park for about a half hour when I noticed a pit bull acting very strange.

And after talking to the owner, I knew why.  The owner was aloof and didn’t even know the background of this dog that he had rescued one month earlier.

I do hate that pit’s get a bad rap, they are beautiful dogs and usually the ones that you see on the news are part of a cultural problem, not the actual breed.

Anywho, we watched as the pit spearheaded another mut right in the side for no good reason.

That’s when I said to Devon that we should start making our way to the truck.  We had already been there long enough and I didn’t like having this wild card near my pups.

Now, keep in mind, stupidly, I had flip flops on because it was a very hot, late summer day.  Mateena made one more bee line to go mark her territory as we were walking towards the gate.

I turned around and saw the pit running at her. There was also a rot that had just arrived, making his way over to the very same area.

Mateena knows herself as silly as that sounds.  I’d argue that she knows herself better than most people.  She knows that she is a loner and that she doesn’t like being in a crowded area.

And like any dog, she reacts if put in a situation that she doesn’t like.  The pit went up behind her and started sniffing her BE-hind.  Mateena turned and did this little chomp she does to let other dogs know to back off.

As I saw this unfolding, I was already running as fast as I could over to the spot because I knew what was about to happen.  The pit reacted to her chomp and clamped down on her skull.  Thank God I got there in time to kick the pit in the head a few times, dislodging his grip on her.

Stupidly, once again (man this was a dumb day by me all around), I stayed between the pit and Mateena and the rot that was now starting to get worked up.  I didn’t think about what it could have done to me.  I reacted and put my family first.

Luckily, I was very aware of my surroundings that day.

I knew the environment and I could ‘feel’ the energy that was in the air.

You can do the same thing, not with a pit bull of course but in your home, at your job, etc.

Environments are triggers.  The brain is always scanning your environments.  You are either going to be at the mercy of your environments or you are going to master your environments.

People often are stressed out of their minds because of their very mismanagement of their environments.

Well, lucky for you, Dana told me it’d be okay to run a special for her Fascial Stretch Therapy service for the holiday season.  For the month of Decemeber, Dana is offering a buy 2, get 1 free deal.

I am already booking a bunch for myself and Devon.

If you are overly stressed, tight in your lower back and regular old massage isn’t doing the trick, then shoot me an email and I will set you up with Dana.  For inquiring minds, if you aren’t sure what FST is, Dana shows you in a quick video here: https://youtu.be/mSUTCEkl3lM

Be your weirdest self – Kyle Newell

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The Path Is Immediate

The Path Is Immediate

When I was 17 years old, I wanted to be the best strength coach in the world.

I didn’t even really know what that meant because I had no one to set the bar against.

All I knew was that I was consumed with this idea of being the best.  Looking back on it, it was being the best that I could become.

It was reaching my full potential.  Am I there yet?  Nope, not even close.

However, I far surpassed my ‘movies of the mind’ from way back when.

You never really know where you are going to wind up.  Most people never even sniff their best self because they are unwilling to see how far they can actually go in life.

The path, your path, is immediate.  You are on it right now.  You can see the next step or even maybe the next couple of steps.

But the path is going to wind and zig-zag and go up and down.  Most people try to see the end from their current position.

You cannot see the end from where you are right now.  All that projecting does is increase your level of anxiety and makes you feel like a loser.

If you are feeling the great anxiety gap, just know that it is caused by trying to focus on the end of the path (which doesn’t really exist, it just keeps going) rather than your current and next steps.

Success is yours for the taking.  So what if it means you gotta show up and do the work every day.  So what if it means that you didn’t see anything after one day of doing visualization exercises.

The time is going to go by anyway.  You and you alone are in charge of your destiny.  If you don’t think so, it’s because you’ve bought into the lie of ‘out there’.

I will be teaching some really cool stuff that will help you activate regions of the brain that you didn’t even knew existed and fusing that with some serious mental work to make 2017 your best year ever.  This one is going to be a bit different, so there’s only room for 6 people.  You can find more info and sign up here, if you dare to be great in 2017: http://kylenewell.com/december

Be weird – Kyle Newell

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Why Goals and Will-power Won’t Help you Succeed

Why Goals and Will-power Won’t Help you Succeed

‘Your systems will help to protect your dreams’.

That’s what Dax Moy said to me last May out in Las Vegas.

I was fortunate that I was one of just 4 people that got to learn from Dax for 3 straight days.

But out of all that I learned from him that week, the systems quote from above is the ONE big thing that stuck in my mind.

After sending out an article last Sunday, it seems that many of the loyal NS fans loved it, so ‘that’ will now get turned into a system.

You can read the entire article here:   http://www.newellstrength.com/systems/

And in that article, you will find out why my mind is changing about goal setting and a cool trick or two about using will-power and not using will-power.

WARNING: If you apply what you read in the article, your life can and will change dramatically….

Just in case you read too fast and missed the link above, here it is:  http://www.newellstrength.com/systems/

-Kyle Newell

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